Create the Relationship
You’ve Always Wanted

Therapy for Individuals and Couples
Online across Pennsylvania

You can’t seem to communicate.

Simple conversations turn into arguments.

Trying to express your needs somehow becomes a conversation about their feelings.

The familiar cycle of blame and resentment repeats.

It’s like you’re stuck in reverse.

You have trouble seeing a path forward.

Constantly revisiting past failures and ruminating on old mistakes are the soundtrack of your relationship failures from Day 1.

It’s gotten to the point where you can’t focus on the present; let alone the future.

You feel like you’re the last priority.

Why is it that your partner seems to honor all their commitments except the ones they make to you?

It’s as though any slight effort they make deserves a standing ovation.

And worse, if you show an ounce of appreciation, the effort disappears – as though they’ve met the bare minimum of care and no longer have to try.

Nothing you do ever seems to be good enough.

It’s like any action you take is wrong unless it’s exactly what your partner would have done.

You never get the benefit of the doubt.

Perfection is the expectation, and anything short of that leads to threats of divorce.

Every day is ‘D’ Day.

The name-calling is at an all-time high. When your anger flares up, you immediately regret it.

Instinctively, you walk away during fights, or you try to come up with some quick fix to make the problem go away.

But this only makes it worse.

There is another way.

It is possible to heal these past hurts.

Therapy can help you uncover the love that’s been overshadowed by unhelpful communication patterns that are holding your relationship back.

Rather than immediately asking you to take down your walls and put aside your verbal weapons, we will validate those walls and create safety for both of you to be vulnerable. That’s right, validate walls!

For several months or years, you have thought or talked about going to therapy.

Take 15 minutes out of your day today and for a free 15-minute consultation call.

One call is a step toward finding your voice and creating the relationship you’ve always wanted.

About Me

Hi, I’m Ryan.

Ryan McMillian, M.Div., LMFT

We are hard-wired to connect. Yet, there’s no training on how to speak to each other to do so.

I remember so many conversations where the focus was on how I communicated and not what I said. This was infuriating and lonely. So, I devoted my life to listening to what people are trying to say, so together we make the how and what match.

Vulnerability has a bad rep as a weakness. Who would have thought that anger would be an easier emotion to express? It’s much harder to say, “I feel hurt, or I’m afraid to lose you.”

Together, we identify any blocks that make vulnerability difficult. I will create a safe space where you won’t feel shamed or crazy for having your emotions.

Don’t worry – I won’t take sides. The last thing you need is a therapist blaming you for the problems in the relationship. The problem is the interaction where you feel stuck.

Let’s join against the real enemy, so you can become teammates again.

Services

What I Offer

Get back on the same team.

Imagine having a partner who listens to your needs, sees the best in you, and cheers you on every step of the way.

Reach out now, and let’s create the strong, healthy, and supportive relationship you deserve.